Are you settling? Find the true love of your life.

Let’s be honest.

We’ve all been there. Sitting across from someone who checks some boxes but not the ones that matter. You tell yourself, “It’s not that bad. He’s trying.” And maybe he is. But is he trying hard enough to love you the way you deserve? Or are you just trying hard enough to convince yourself it's love?

Girl, it’s time we talk about settling.

Settling looks like

• Confusing consistency with compatibility
• Lowering your needs because “at least he’s not cheating”
• Saying “it’s fine” more than you feel fulfilled
• Becoming small just to keep the peace
• Giving relationship advice to yourself that you’d never give a friend

Let’s be clear. Peace isn’t supposed to feel like emotional numbness. Love should add to your life, not make you question your worth.

So, are you settling? Or are you just scared to start over?

There’s no shame in outgrowing someone. There’s no guilt in saying “I want more.”
Because here’s the truth

You are not hard to love. You’re just loving people who don’t know how.

Now let’s flip the script. What does real love feel like?

Real love feels like
• Safe, not silent
• Seen, not just watched
• Heard, not just “dealt with”
• Growing, not just staying
• A mirror and a window. You see yourself clearer and see what’s possible

True love doesn’t tame you. It meets you.

How to stop settling and start attracting

1. Love yourself harder than anyone else can
Not in a cliché way but in a “this is the standard” way. When you set the tone others either rise or leave.

2. Ask yourself. Would you want your daughter in this relationship?
That question alone will tell you everything.

3. Rewrite your non-negotiables
You’re not the same girl you were two years ago. Why are you still dating like it?

4. Heal before you romanticize crumbs
Loneliness isn’t a sign to settle. It’s a signal to return to yourself.

And the gag is

The true love of your life isn’t a man a ring or a curated romance.
It’s you. You are the one you’ve been waiting for. The main character. The heartbeat. The muse.

The partner comes after you meet yourself.

Final Girl Coded Truth

Stop editing your emotions to fit a love that won’t stretch.
Stop dressing up disappointment and calling it potential.
And stop calling it fate when it's just familiarity.

You’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking the wrong person.

And when the right one comes you’ll know.
Not because he completes you but because he won’t require you to shrink.

Want to know if you’re really in alignment with your love life?
Take our “Are You Settling?” Quiz (coming soon to Girl Coded) and journal through it with your community.